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Giving Yourself Grace

Giving Yourself Grace

Introduction

Hey! Welcome! This week I want to share a lesson from my 5-week program “Get OK with LS”. It’s about giving yourself grace. It concerns how we talk to ourselves about ourselves. Giving ourselves grace is important when living with Lichen Sclerosus, as a Lichen Sclerosus diagnosis can really turn your whole world upside down. So keep listening – or reading – for my 4 tips on how to give yourself grace with LS. Grab a pen and pencil and my notes of these tips!

Image of a pen and notebook. This image represents the viewers taking note of the 4 tips I offer for how to show yourself grace.

The Motivation Behind this Episode: Why I Need to Show Myself Grace

If you listened to my previous episode “Listen to Your Body”, you know I haven’t been doing well (listen here). And I am still not doing well. No matter what I do, I feel exhausted. My muscles ache. All I want to do is sleep. My short-term memory is shot; I fumble over my words.  I’m really not in a good place.

Thus, I’ve been having to practice the tips I provide in my program because I have to show myself grace at this moment.

Specifically, because I am not feeling well, I’m not getting the things I want to accomplish done. It’s frustrating to feel like your body is holding you back. I felt really disappointed in myself and felt I was letting myself and my listeners down.

Image of person with hands in front of their face, looking exhausted as they try to work at the computer.

This is something I’m sure many of you with chronic illness understand.

The first week when I wasn’t feeling well, I figured it would pass. But here I am, weeks later, still feeling awful. Therefore, I had to re-evaluate my expectations of myself and set new goals that were more in line with and that honored where I am right now.

Tips for Giving Yourself Grace

I want to share with you 4 tips I give to the ladies in my 5-week “Get OK with LS program” on how to show up for yourself and give yourself grace when you are struggling.

Giving yourself grace involves how you see yourself and how you talk to yourself.

Don’t Beat Yourself Up for What You Don’t Know – Tip 1 for Giving Yourself Grace.

Everyday we learn something new. Each time you learn something new, you adapt how you live according to what you learned. However, if you didn’t know something, you cannot blame yourself what you didn’t know. You can’t do better if you didn’t know better. If you want to do better, try to find the information so you can improve on what you can change, and accept what you can’t. When you catch yourself beating yourself up for something that is out of your control, breathe, and give yourself grace.

Don’t Compare Yourself to Other – Tip 2 for Giving Yourself Grace

There are so many amazing individuals on social media raising awareness for Lichen Sclerosus. Each one of them contributes in their own individual ways. Some of these women have been at this for years, and I just started in February.

Thus, I’ve only been at it for 6 months. Accordingly, if I compared myself to them, I wouldn’t be fair to myself and would only be hurting myself. It serves me no purpose to do this. All of our journeys are just that; our own.

Similarly, if you see someone on social media that says they got into remission by simply cutting out dairy, and you do the same but with no positive results, you may get down on yourself. However, you don’t know their own story, and regardless, LS is an individualized disease. Find what works for you and don’t compare yourself to others on their LS journey. Give yourself grace and the space to have your own journey, on your own terms.

Image of a person sitting in a yoga pose, opening up to the world and showing themselves grace but just being in the present moment.

Do What Works for You – Tip 3 for Giving Yourself Grace

Unfortunately, LS involves a lot of trial and error. Do not force yourself to be who you are not.

For example, many find their symptoms subside when cutting out sugar. However, you have a massive sweet tooth and you go cold turkey no sugar. Three weeks out, you are miserable because you cannot have what you want. Thus, in this example, it’s not sustainable to try and completely overhaul who you are as a person.

Instead, adapt your goals to who you are and what is sustainable for you. For instance, cut sugar out slowly and stop at a level that is good for you. Perhaps this means you still have a dessert a couple times a week. If you see results with that and you can still enjoy some treats, this is amazing! Experiment with things and find what works for you. Remember, what works for one person may not work for you, and that is OK! Give yourself the grace to show up and acknowledge your true authentic self.

Make small goals that lead up to bigger goals and celebrate those small steps! If you miss a small goal, use it as a teaching moment; what can you learn from this so that you emerge stronger. Give yourself grace if/when you don’t reach a goal.

Practice Mindfulness – Tip 4 for Giving Yourself Grace

When you feel you are overwhelmed, take a moment and ground yourself back into the presence of your being. Focus on the sensations in your body; whatever is going on, just notice. Then respond instead of reacting.

For example, if you were cutting out sugar and someone at the office brings in cupcakes and you immediately think, “Ah, I’m going to crack”! Once you feel that, catch yourself in the moment, focus on your feelings, and then decide how to respond.

Perhaps that looks like walking away or perhaps sharing half with your office buddy. You decide what is right for you at that moment. Perhaps you just say, “I will enjoy that cupcake and go for it”. But practice mindfulness first and see what you need.

Image of cupcakes representing the cupcakes in the example where you need to give yourself grace and do what works best for you.

To recap, the 4 Tips for Giving Yourself Grace:

  1. Don’t beat yourself up for what you don’t know or can’t do.
  2. Don’t’ compare yourself to others.
  3. Do what is best for you and your body.
  4. Practice mindfulness.

Bookmark this page and come back to it when you are feeling overwhelmed and/or ungrounded!

Conclusion

I have had to practice these to give myself grace these last few weeks as my health plummeted. I’m used to being constantly on the go and now I am forced to go at a snails pace. It was hard for me at first. I did go into old habits of beating myself up, but then, I caught myself. I practiced mindfulness, and I showed myself grace by not beating myself up or comparing myself to others and I listened to my body and what it needs.

Let me know if any of these tips helped you or if anything in particular resonated! DM me on Instagram @lichensclerosuspodcast or via email at Kathy@lssupport.net.

By Kathy

I'm 42, a wife and mother of three. I have been suffering from Lichen Sclerosus since 2013. I started this podcast to build community and learn more about this incurable condition.

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